Saturday, June 14, 2014

Creating a good father- daughter relationship

Many girls are close to their mothers and that is understandable, but very few are close to their fathers .
Father’s day is around the corner and this is the best time to s work on creating a healthy father-daughter relationship.

It’s important to have a healthy relationship with one’s dad especially if your dad is still alive. Men usually have a shorter life span and many regret not bonding with their dads later in life.

The father is one of the most influential people in a girl’s life. A girl’s relationship with her father shapes her self-image, self-confidence, and her opinion of men.
 According to Michael Austin the editor of Fatherhood- Philosophy for Everyone "How Dad approaches life will serve as an example for his daughter to build off of in her own life, even if she chooses a different view of the world,"

It's true that some fathers have not being involved in the lives of their daughters and this makes it difficult for many girls to relate with their fathers, but it is better to also put effort in helping to foster a healthy relationship since it is so important.

One must realise that it is never too late and if one has had a very bad relationship in the past the first step after identifying the problem is to forgive.
After forgiveness, the next step is to find out what actually went wrong and try to amend if possible. If you had contributed in any way to the broken relationship try to put effort to stop whatever it is you do that creates the problem.

Find out what your dad likes. Father’s day is a good day to start again, find out more about your dad and buy him his favourite thing, or just buy him a simple gift you can afford with a card showing you appreciate him.

Spend time with your father this period; ask questions about his favourite things- this would make him know you care.
Create time to hang out with your dad, dads give very good advice especially when it comes to relationships, remember they were once young men too, they know all the tricks and can warn their daughters about them and  teach them how to identify real men.

Take out time daily to pray for your dad and once in a while call your dad and find out how he is doing. Reaching out is not always easy but it is worth it in the end.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Knowing Your Worth As A Woman!

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong? Like being someone else because you felt like being you just wasn’t good enough? At some point in every woman’s life there comes a time when you have to bank on your self-esteem to help your feelings of poor self-worth. For some women, self-esteem is shaped by beauty and even more commonly, the way we think men view us or respond to us. It’s not uncommon for women to define their worth by the level of interest from the opposite sex. Emotionally and physically, females of every specie have been known to seek the attention of males – it not only makes life more interesting but it is necessary for procreation and protection.

So if it is a given that most women need men to exist, how then does one define or establish your self-worth independent of a man’s attention? Although it’s never at the forefront of our minds, but the society constantly reminds us how important it is to have a man on your arm in order to feel complete. As soon as a girl is a certain age, she is required by the society to become a woman and to play the role of a woman. Marriage and the responsibilities that come with it become her main focus – without even knowing it, it becomes her reason for existing.

It’s great to be a woman and it’s even more amazing to feel needed or wanted. However, your worth as a woman should exceed desire or attraction from the opposite sex. One of the best ways to really establish your worth as a woman is to live for something bigger than you – it all starts with knowing who are, why you were created, understanding what your purpose is, identifying what your dreams are and creating goals which you can look forward to achieving.

This is never easy! Although, placing your worth in the reason for your existence ensures that you would hardly feel rejected. Change is the only constant thing in life, so what happens when the guy who used to tell you, you were beautiful starts to talk negatively about your features or ignore you? Automatically, you would feel like you’re not good enough. However, when you work hard at being a successful and purpose driven woman, you would be confident enough to know that any guy who wants to win your heart would have to step up because you deserve nothing but the best things in life!