Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Beauty Secrets from BeYOUtiful.



 1. True picture behind picture perfect
Many girls wish they looked like celebrities on TV but the reality is that even those celebrities don’t look like that, a lot of make-up, lighting, editing come together to  create the faces we see on TV and Magazines. TV isn’t real. The writer of BeYoutiful-an ex-beauty pageant winner- writes out a list of all she was expected to do to look good; just to appear in a magazine, even if she wasn’t the cover girl!

     2.   Let your inner beauty shine from inside out
Every girl should know she is made up of her body, mind, choices, character, and values.
No matter what happens in life always remember that treating your body badly affects how you see yourself, it affects your mind set. Also your bad character affects your choices, but nothing can change your value. We are always like diamonds no matter what we have gone through or what we have experienced. If a diamond is being trampled on and thrown into the waste bin, it will always remain a diamond. So no matter what we have been through we just need to dust ourselves up to shine!. We are always priceless and should never feel or think less of ourselves.
Also remember that when you appreciate the beauty in others your beauty comes out!

     3.   Give yourself a confidence make-over with your ABC.
Always Be Confident! Think, feel then act confident even when you do not think so, act confident and you will begin to feel and think confidently!

     4.   Model a fashionable sense of self respect!
 Dress how you will like to be addressed. When you are confident about yourself you do not need to over dress. Some outfits either say ‘just an object’, ‘respect me’ or ‘I am beautiful’. Always keep the three B’s to yourself, keep your Victoria’s secret secret!

      5.   Accessorize your self esteem
 Get high heels to crush haters, or shades to block them off, something you feel good in!

      6.   Apply your ‘true- to- you foundation’
 Do not ever change for anyone except your changing to be better!

      7.   Remember that real models are role models!
 Do you really want to be looked up to, or looked at? It is always better to make a positive impact in your environment!

Source: BeYOUtiful, Julie Marie Carrier

Thursday, March 7, 2013

I'm That Girl - That Girl That Got Pregnant

We came across an amazing real life story on a blog called Focus, and we knew we had to share it with you. Enjoy and be inspired!


So…I’m pregnant. I’m 21, single, a senior in college, and yes, I’m that girl. It happened on my 21st birthday. Most people get to enjoy a few too many drinks, and possibly a bad headache the next day for their 21st birthday. My experience was a little different. I was that girl that got way too drunk, that girl that was insecure, that girl that had a random hookup, that girl that couldn’t say no, that girl that got pregnant.

It should be understood that one drunken hook-up did not change my life. The devil had been working through the details for years leading up to this. He had been working the day I had my first illegal drink of alcohol. He was there when I lost my virginity to a guy I hardly knew. He was there when I lost all self-respect and repeatedly got drunk and acted promiscuously. He was there when I searched for guy after guy for security. The devil was there the day after all those miserable hookups, feeding the thoughts of unworthiness and self-hate into my head. The devil was working the whole time. It’s no surprise that on my 21st birthday, I got drunk “justifiably” because it was my birthday, and had sex with some guy. It was no surprise at all; in fact the devil had this in the works for many years.
Fortunately, God was working this whole time too.

The day I saw those two lines indicating a positive result, my whole world completely turned upside down. I was living every young girl’s worst nightmare I was pregnant. At the time I found out I was pregnant, I was single, alone, and afraid. I literally felt I had no one to turn to. The weight of my own embarrassment, shame, self-hatred, and loss of self-worth was too much to bear and I never told a single soul I was pregnant and scheduled an abortion even though I knew to my very core it was wrong. The devil works when we are alone, and that’s exactly what I was - alone. Inside I was desperately screaming “Who could possibly love me?” There was no way I could tell anyone.I was afraid. I was afraid no one would love me if they knew that I had gotten pregnant. Being raised Catholic all of my life I was well versed in Church teaching on abortion. I knew that every aspect of it was wrong; it was emotionally, scientifically, theologically, spiritually, and fundamentally wrong – yet I was still going to do it.

However, God loved me too much to let me off the hook. The days leading up to my abortion, I would attend mass. I would sit in the very back, by myself, head down the entire time. I would shamefully watch other people receive the Eucharist as I sat there, unworthy of it. The weekend right before my scheduled abortion God pierced my soul with His unconditional, perfect love. It was as if all the readings and the homily were directed specifically at me. That day at mass I learned about God’s infinite mercy and forgiveness. I had obviously known intellectually about forgiveness and mercy, but that day was different. That day, God gave me the grace to feel His presence and his mercy and forgiveness in my heart. For the first time I knew with every ounce of my being that God DID love me as much as he loved the little life inside of me. For the first time in over a month of depression and turmoil and shame, I felt loved – in the midst of my brokenness. I realized that God gifted me not only with my life, but also entrusted to me the life growing inside me. In that moment I felt overwhelming peace and the courage to offer my life back to God as a gift and do His will, no matter how scared I was. By the grace of God alone, I cancelled my abortion.

That day changed me forever. I know His love is real; He has confirmed it to me time and time again.  God confirmed His love for me when I finally built up the courage to tell my parents I was pregnant; my parents never condemned me, but instead embraced me and loved me and supported me.  God confirmed His love for me when I finally went to confession and the priest praised me for my choice of life and gave me the grace to forgive myself.  God confirmed His love for me when I told my friends and they not once judged me, but loved me and affirmed me of my worth.  God confirmed His love for me when my doctor never questioned my age or why I didn’t have a husband and instead rejoiced in the development of the baby inside me.  God confirmed His love for me every day at mass when I witness His sacrifice for me, so that I, a broken girl, could be forgiven and come to know Him. 

I am now proud to say I am 39 weeks pregnant with a beautiful little girl.  Any day I will get to hold this beautiful gift of life.  I am proud to say that I have given my life back to God as a witness to life as I am one of the few, if not only pregnant girl attending a secular university.  I also have a new found passion for helping the broken women found in an unplanned pregnancy as a volunteer advisor at our local Pregnancy Resource Center.  Finally, I share my story with anyone and everyone, with just the small hope that another broken person can feel loved and know his/her life is truly a gift and that they are valued as a child of God.  Life truly is a precious gift, and I’m so blessed that God gave me the grace to understand that, even in the midst of brokenness.


Source: http://www.focus.org/blog/posts/im-that-girl-that-got-pregnant.html

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

What to give your best girl on Valentine's day...


She’s always there to listen to your rants, share your secrets, hold your hand through the heartbreaks or breakups.... she makes you laugh and gets your sign language – that’s your best girl A.K.A your ‘BFF’. 

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and it’s only right to appreciate the girl(s) in your life that mean so much. We think that friendship bracelets are a good gift to show your love and strengthen the girly bond.






Order one for you and your BFF or better yet play DIY with a few embroidery threads, and create a ‘wrist candy’ to symbolize how great a friend she is to you!







Happy Valentine’s Day in advance...

We love you guys!

xxxx




Tuesday, December 18, 2012

All I want for Christmas is Dulche!




 Treat yourself , your family and friends this season with Dulche’s  ice cream sundaes with exotic toppings- strawberries, blueberries, peanut butter cookies, chocolate chunks, wafers and any toppings of your choice



or  smoothies with a large variety of fruits, fruit salad, canapes, Creme caramel, crumble, swissrolls, tarts, cakes and chocolate fountain with dips!


For a magical experience this season

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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Going the extra mile....

The Girlfriends Team came across Ronke Olatunde, a beautiful young lady who shaved her hair in support of a cancer patient - a very rare act these days! We decided to have a chat with her...

1. Tell us a bit about yourself?

I'm just a simple girl. I like to believe I'm hard working. I love food x_x lol but apart from that I'm just a regular shy girl trying to make a name for herself. 

2. So what do you do?

I'm currently working for a consulting company and I'm a PR agent to some celebrities and companies.

3. We heard about your inspiring move, what motivated you to do it?

My friend's mother has cancer so she's going through a tough time and her son is my very good friend so I just did it to show/tell her "I'm here for her"...it might sound silly but she really appreciated it.

4. Did you intend to pass a message across and do people get the message when they look at you?

Not really, I just did it to support my friend's mother. Cancer isn't an easy thing to face.


5. What do people say to you about your new look?

The first thing my friend said to me was "Wow! You cut your hair"... while other people just stared at me. Someone even asked if I was sick.





6. Do you ever regret it?

No, I don't :) Would do it again if I have to!

7. Do you have any advice for girls?

We should motivate and empower ourselves... We don't need any man to save us, as far as we have God in our lives; we can save ourselves.

8) Where do you see yourself in five years?

In five years, I do pray and hope I'll be happily married with 2 lovely kids. Ps: I wouldn't mind actually adopting a child/children if I have enough money, so I can change their story. I hope that my business will be well established, recognized and well known in Nigeria. I also hope to start a charity program for kids with diseases/cancer and children that have been abused sexually and mentally. I know it seems like a lot but I really want to make a difference in Nigeria. I might not be able to change the whole of Nigeria but if I can change at least one person's life and show them that God is faithful and he's all we need then I'll be okay!


Stay inspired!
xx



Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Everything a girl should know about breast cancer


October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, and this year, we’re marking it by sharing relevant information about breast cancer that we think every girl should have. We came across this amazing article on webmd.com titled ‘Facts about breast cancer’. Take a look about the article below.


Cells in the body normally divide (reproduce) only when new cells are needed. Sometimes, cells in a part of the body grow and divide out of control, which creates a mass of tissue called a tumor. If the cells that are growing out of control are normal cells, the tumour is called benign (not cancerous). If however, the cells that are growing out of control are abnormal and do not function like the body's normal cells, the tumour is called malignant (cancerous).
Cancers are named after the part of the body from which they originate. Breast cancer originates in the breast tissue. Like other cancers, breast cancer can invade and grow into the tissue surrounding the breast. It can also travel to other parts of the body and form new tumours, a process called metastasis.

What Causes Breast Cancer?
Even if we do not know what causes breast cancer, we do know that certain risk factors may put you at higher risk of developing it, like one’s: age, genetic factors, personal health history, and diet.
Who Gets Breast Cancer?
Breast cancer is the most common type of cancer among women after skin cancer. Today, about 1 in 8 women (12%) will develop breast cancer in her lifetime. Breast cancer is the second-leading cause of cancer death in women (lung cancer is first). The American Cancer Society estimates that in 2012, about 226,870 women will be diagnosed with invasive breast cancer and about 39,510 will die from breast cancer.
Only 5% to 10% of breast cancers occur in women with a clearly defined genetic predisposition for the disease. The majority of breast cancer cases are "sporadic," meaning there is no direct family history of the disease. The risk of developing breast cancer increases as a woman gets older.

What Are the Symptoms of Breast Cancer?
The symptoms of breast cancer include: 
- Lump or thickening in or near the breast or in the underarm that persists through the menstrual cycle.
 -  A mass or lump, which may feel as small as a pea.
 -   A change in the size, shape, or contour of the breast.
 -  A blood-stained or clear fluid discharge from the nipple.
 -  A change in the feel or appearance of the skin on the breast or nipple (dimpled, puckered, scaly, or inflamed).
 -  Redness of the skin on the breast or nipple.
 -  A change in shape or position of the nipple
An area that is distinctly different from any other area on either breast.
-   A marble-like hardened area under the skin.
What Are the Types of Breast Cancer?
The most common types of breast cancer are:

Invasive ductal carcinoma. This cancer starts in the milk ducts of the breast. Then it breaks through the wall of the duct and invades the fatty tissue of the breast. This is the most common form of breast cancer, accounting for 80% of invasive cases.

Ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS) is ductal carcinoma in its earliest stage (stage 0). "In situ" refers to the fact that the cancer hasn't spread beyond its point of origin. In this case, the disease is confined to the milk ducts and has not invaded nearby breast tissue. If untreated, ductal carcinoma in situ may become invasive cancer. It is often curable.

Infiltrating (invasive) lobular carcinoma. This cancer begins in the lobules of the breast where breast milk is produced, but has spread to surrounding tissues or other parts of the body. It accounts for about 10% of invasive breast cancers.

Lobular carcinoma in situ (LCIS) is cancer that is only in the lobules of the breast. It isn't a true cancer, but serves as a marker for the increased risk of developing breast cancer later. Thus, it is important for women with lobular carcinoma in situ to have regular clinical breast exams and mammograms.
In addition, there are several other less common types of breast cancer.


What Are the Stages of Breast Cancer?
      Early stage or stage 0 breast cancer is when the disease is localized to the breast with no evidence of spread to the lymph nodes (carcinoma in situ).

        Stage I breast cancer: The cancer is 2 centimeters or less in size and it hasn't spread anywhere.

   Stage IIA breast cancer is a tumor smaller than 2 centimeters across with lymph node involvement or a tumor that is larger than 2 but less than 5 centimeters across without underarm lymph node involvement.

   Stage IIB is a tumor that is greater than 5 centimeters across without underarm lymph nodes testing positive for cancer or a tumor that is larger than 2 but less than 5 centimeters across with lymph node involvement.

   Stage IIIA breast cancer is also called locally advanced breast cancer. The tumor is larger than 5 centimeters and has spread to the lymph nodes under the arm, or a tumor that is any size with cancerous lymph nodes that adhere to one another or surrounding tissue.

   Stage IIIB breast cancer is a tumor of any size that has spread to the skin, chest wall, or internal mammary lymph nodes (located beneath the breast and inside the chest).

   Stage IIIC breast cancer is a tumor of any size that has spread more extensively and involves more lymph node invasion.

   Stage IV breast cancer is defined as a tumor, regardless of size, that has spread to places far away from the breast, such as bones, lungs, liver, brain, or distant lymph nodes.

How Is Breast Cancer Diagnosed?
During your regular physical exam, your doctor will take a careful personal and family history and perform a breast exam and possibly order a mammogram or an ultrasound of the breasts. In certain women who are at increased risk for breast cancer, an MRI may be ordered.
Based on the results of these tests, your doctor may or may not request a biopsy to get a sample of the breast mass cells or tissue.
After the sample is removed, it is sent to a lab for testing. A pathologist -- a doctor who specializes in diagnosing abnormal tissue changes -- views the sample under a microscope and looks for abnormal cell shapes or growth patterns. When cancer is present, the pathologist can tell what kind of cancer it is (ductal or lobular carcinoma) and whether it has spread beyond the ducts or lobules (invasive).
Lab tests such as hormone receptor tests (estrogen and progesterone) can show whether the hormones help the cancer to grow. If the test results show that hormones help the cancer grow (a positive test), the cancer is likely to respond to hormonal treatment. This therapy deprives the cancer of the estrogen hormone.
Breast cancer diagnosis and treatment are best accomplished by a team of experts working together with the patient. Each patient needs to evaluate the advantages and limitations of each type of treatment, and work with her team of doctors to develop the best approach.
Further Reading:
·         Partial Mastectomy
·         Total Mastectomy
·         Women's Health Home
How Is Breast Cancer Treated?
If the tests find breast cancer, you and your doctor will develop a treatment plan to eradicate the breast cancer, to reduce the chance of cancer returning in the breast, as well as to reduce the chance of the cancer traveling to a location outside of the breast. Treatment generally follows within a few weeks after the diagnosis.
The type of treatment recommended will depend on the size and location of the tumor in the breast, the results of lab tests done on the cancer cells and the stage or extent of the disease. Your doctor usually considers your age and general health as well as your feelings about the treatment options.
Breast cancer treatments are local or systemic.


- Local treatments are used to remove, destroy, or control the cancer cells in a specific area, such as the breast. Surgery and radiation treatment are local treatments.

- Systemic treatments are used to destroy or control cancer cells all over the body. Chemotherapy; hormone therapy such as tamoxifen; aromatase inhibitors such as Arimidex, Aromasin, and Femara; and biologic drugs such as Herceptin, Perjeta, and Tykerb are systemic treatments. A patient may have just one form of treatment or a combination, depending on her needs.

What Happens After Treatment?
Following local breast cancer treatment, your doctors will determine the likelihood that the cancer will recur outside the breast. This team usually includes a medical oncologist, a specialist trained in using medicines to treat breast cancer. The medical oncologist, who works with the surgeon, may advise the use of hormone therapy or possibly chemotherapy. These treatments are used in addition to, but not in place of, local breast cancer treatment with surgery and/or radiation therapy.
Steps to protect yourself from Breast Cancer?
 Follow these three steps for early breast cancer detection:
-  Annual screening mammography starting at age 40 or 50. Breast cancer experts don't agree when women need to begin getting mammograms. Ask your doctor.

  - Women in high-risk categories should have screening mammograms every year and typically start at an earlier age. MRI or ultrasound screening can also be given in addition to mammograms. Discuss the best approach with your doctor.

 - Have your breasts examined by a health care provider at least once every three years after age 20, and every year after age 40. Clinical breast exams can complement mammograms.

Source: http://women.webmd.com/guide/breast-cancer-arm-yourself-with-facts?page=3

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Jete Accessories


Jete Accessories is an accessories line established in 2011 and owned by Jennifer Okoli. “We specialize in hand-made, fun, classy and trendy accessories”.


Jennifer started out at a time when the company she had been working for suddenly closed down. Being an independent and resourceful individual, she decided to “get her hands busy” and that was when Jete Accessories was born- “I have always loved unique accessories combined with fabrics of different types and colours. I started experimenting with various colorful fabrics (especially our African fabrics- Ankara, Woodin, Kente, etc.) and I came up with these beautiful and unique pieces. In no time, people fell in love with them- and then came the idea to turn it into a full time business!”



















The desire to transform people’s accessory collection by introducing class and uniqueness was and still remains a vision for Jennifer and the Jete Accessories’ team- “Our collections include men’s accessories, Jewelry, Hair Accessories, Necklaces, footwear, bags, Earrings, brooches, bangles and much more”.


For more info on Jete Accessories...
Call: +23417036481109