Being an
independent strong and smart woman is in vogue every man wants a woman who has a mind of
her own.
It doesn't
mean being proud or rude it just means you know what you want and what you
don't, it means you are assertive and purpose-driven.
Here are some
steps to being a strong independent lady this 2014
- Don't compare yourself to other women
Never compare
yourself to any one- ''she has nicer legs than me, but i have a better shape''
either to flatter yourself or to make yourself feel bad. Your self-esteem and
happiness should not depend on other people.
It's okay to
have female role models but never let them make you feel insecure or
inadequate. Find a strong female role model that inspires you.
Try not to
compare yourself to celebrities, remember they are made to look perfect in
magazines and on screen.
Always look
your best and love being YOU.
- Don't base your happiness on being in a
relationship
Learn to love
yourself before loving someone else.
No matter how
bad you may think you need a relationship you need to wait for the right
person. Someone who deserves you and would treat you like a princess that you
are.
Ladies in
relationships should examine their relationships from time to time and make the
necessary decisions.
If you are in
a relationship remember you have other aspects of your life to attend to (family,
work, school) and attend to them.
- Don't feel obliged to follow fashion
trends
Use fashion to
express your moods, style and creativity. Don’t just follow the crowd!
Make your
clothes work for you, wear clothes that suit your body shape and size.
- Protect your sexuality
At a point in
every woman's life she encounters a man who wants to take advantage of her
sexuality. It is important to say 'NO' to a man who is making unwelcome
advances at you.
If a man
forces himself one you need to let someone know about it so that necessary
actions can be taken. If a man gets away with it he is likely to do it again.
Report sexual
harassment at school or work.
- Stay educated
Education
gives you skills and knowledge not just for finding a career but it should
reflect in your attitude to life and in the way you relate to people.
Being educated
doesn't just involve formal education but keeping up with politics, science and
technology and also reading widely. You should know a bit of everything.
Try answering
this -
Is the sun a
star? Yes/no
- Stand up for yourself
Every woman
has to learn to be assertive! It is totally different from being aggressive,
you should be able to say 'NO' and stand your grounds.
If someone
makes a sexist or inappropriate remark you should be able to let the person
know he or she is wrong.
Let people know
when they have wronged you say it politely and trash out issues rather than
gossiping or keeping grudges.
- Take care of your body
Your personal
strength can be seen physically, mentally and psychologically.
You have to
take care of your body.
Exercise for
at least an hour every day, go for a walk, jog, or ride a bike.
Staying in
shape improves your overall health, mood and energy level, which will improve overall
performance.
Your diet
should consist of fruits, vegetables, lean, proteins, whole grains, and some
dairy.
Stay away from
excess sugar.
- Manage your finances
To be truly
independent you need to pay for your own lifestyle so you don't have to depend
on other people.
Spend your
money wisely.
Keep track of
your financial records to be able to spot any inconsistencies.
Prioritize
your spending - your priorities should be food shelter and clothing and other
things like vacations, concerts and expensive clothing are luxuries.
Learn to
differentiate between necessities and luxuries.
- Give to others
You don't have
to be affluent to make a positive impact in your community.
Start small,
you can volunteer at an NGO, for example- a soup kitchen or any other NGO that
promotes ideas you are passionate about.
Practice acts
of kindness -example: you see people in your neighbourhood with no shoes give
them your old shoes that are still in shape, give beggars money, help people
you come across.
Helping
someone carry some boxes can brighten his/her day.
Source: how to be a strong independent woman-wiki how
